I think we can agree on Urban, like Saban, views the media or these PR needs to be a nuisance to what they want to accomplish. You can extend that to they think they are above questioning... but whatever. At the core, they are annoyed by PR and Media.
Everything else is bias shaped by past events or relationship to OSU. Nebraska fans view St. Thomas de la Osborne differently than the media portrayed him in 1995. Knocking the king off is great media. So I hesitate to trash anyone without warrant.
That said... I feel Urban knows his job is to win games. You justify recruiting, staffing, etc based upon that goal... what he's paid to do. Doesn't mean you're pro recruiting criminals or want wife beaters on your staff, but human nature is to explain or see what we want. Perhaps it was a tough upbringing and getting him out of that environment will change him. Perhaps the couple is in counseling and what matters they are working on it. I don't think Urban is different than many other coaches in that regard. But if you held him on the pedestal of someone like Saint Tom Osborne, you'll be disappointed. I had not... he's what he was at Florida.
If I do have an issue with Urban.... it seemed oblivious to the current climate on violence towards women. I do believe he was tone death to it.